Commitment between two couples is all about having a long-term view. It means that you are going to stay in this relationship permanently in all situations and at all costs--not just until a better option comes along. What commitment does for a marriage is to say that the two of us are going to be able to survive the inevitable ups and downs of a lifelong relationship--simply because we are committed to one another.
Commitment also means that we are going to give up some rights or choices because of our love and devotion for this person. This idea is not a very prized value in our culture today. (What? You mean I'm going to have to give something up?) Our society today says that you should hang on to everything. Or as they say in Texas, don't sell your mineral rights! After all, none of us willingly want to give up what we think is "ours".
But that's what successful and truly satisfying marriage is all about--denying yourself. Sacrifice. And more specifically, it's about all the unforseen joy there is to be found in life by willingly giving yourself completely to another person. Couples that don't get this concept of a deeper trust deny themselves something extraordinarily beautiful. There truly is nothing else like it.
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