There's an old saying that says that it's not two people that get married, it's actually six....or more! The meaning here is that you bring into your new marriage the attitudes of your parents--on both sides of the family. And if either of you is a child of divorce, then there are additional factors that have helped shape your viewpoints on life--and that's just the beginning of your family dynamics.
The more you know about your partner's family before you get married, the better. It will give you valuable insight into the heart of your companion. You'll discover what their philosophy of family and family life is really all about. You'll figure out why he or she behaves in certain ways under stress. You'll get a greater glimpse into the attitudes that shape them.
Whether we like it or not, we are products of our original families. But that doesn't mean that we have to set up the new family in exactly the same way. New philosophies, goals, and directions can be charted--through thoughtful prayer and discussion together. But spending some quality investment into each other's family history will be time well spent--because chances are those history lessons will resurface from time to time over the course of your lives together.
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