If you haven't figured it out yet, we live in a society that's not exactly friendly to marriage. And not just the institution of marriage, but your individual marriage. Believe it or not, there are all kinds of outside forces in the world that would, frankly, rather not see your future marriage succeed. That's why it's important to take steps to protect your new relationship with your soon-to-be spouse.
Most likely, on your wedding day, you will be taking vows of some type that will emphasize your new commitment together. At your wedding, you will probably both be promising in some way to stay faithful and true to one another. Those are important vows. But communicate with each other before you get married how you are pragmatically going to do that. Maybe it's time to discuss a change in behavior from how things have been currently going in your dating life. For instance, maybe some situations that occur now might actually make you uncomfortable in a marriage commitment later. You might both want to decide how to handle invitations to having lunch alone with a person of the opposite sex. Or maybe you should discuss how important it is to regularly let friends and acquaintences know that you are happily married, without just making that fact an assumed notion--simply because you will now be wearing a wedding ring.
Obviously, you will not be able to completely avoid talking to someone of the opposite sex. That is neither realistic nor a way to go through life. However, it is important to always demonstrate your commitment to your future spouse, especially when they are not actually standing there with you. Always speak highly of your mate to others, and never give any reason for distrust.
Don't worry. There's really no reason to fear making a giant mistake in this area. Prayer is the simple key. Ask God to help your marriage stay on track in the area of trust. God does want to protect your marriage. So, pray for each other to make good decisions while you are apart from each other. When you are together, pray with each other to further develop your personal level of trust and understanding of each other. Praying together will keep you on track while growing you closer together in a level of intimacy that can't be achieved in any other context. In fact, praying together with the one you adore diminishes greatly your desire to be cavalier in any way about your marriage. So, it's a worthwhile investment of time.
People insure their homes, cars....all kinds of things against theft, casualty or destruction. Do the same thing for your most important relationship--pray for your love daily.
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