Something that needs to be repeated more and more to engaged couples is that marriage is often very.....difficult. Sometimes that's extremely hard for a couple that is "in love" to grasp--and who can blame them? Let's face it, the period right before a wedding is an exciting time of life! So, by all means, enjoy it! Nevertheless, because of the romantic (even chemical) feelings of euphoria that are present in the early years of a loving relationship, it's easy to neglect the reality that hard work is necessary for a successful lifelong marriage.
Since this is so often true, a habit to develop now during your premarital stage is to learn how to become a servant to your future spouse. One of the most dramatic ways of doing that is to realize when it is more loving to "give in" during a difference of opinion. In my experience, it makes sense to yield to the one you love most of the time. There's an old saying that says, "You can be right....or you can be happily married!" Go out of your way to surrender "your way of doing things" to your partner's point of view. With the exception of moral convictions, most of the things that we disagree about are usually pretty petty. After all, does it really matter all that much what color the towels in the guest bathroom are going to be?
If you can practice this kind of response now, I believe it will set a course for your marriage for the future that will truly blow you away. Rising above your own self-centeredness will open both of you up to the true world of love--which is believing that the other person is more important than yourself. If you are both approaching your future marriage with that mindset, you will learn together how powerful a love relationship can really be.
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