Every couple considering marriage needs to address the issue of the potential of having children together. Personally, I think having kids is one of the absolute greatest blessings a husband and wife can have on this earth. However...I'm afraid that not everyone shares that viewpoint with me. Let's face it. Kids are hard work. The subject of parenthood can be a tremendous stressor for a young marriage.
Do the two of you want children? If so, when? Is school for either one of you an issue right now? Are your careers more of a priority? Even if you eventually want to have children, it would be very beneficial to discuss how long you both want to wait before having kids (not that those conversations always do a lot of good--sometimes surprises just happen in life, unexplainably).
In my opinion, having kids is worth every minute, but there's certainly a lot to consider.
For instance, if you do have children, who is going to be the primary caregiver? Not a slam dunk question anymore. You might assume that you are on the same page on this issue only to find out that there is a dramatic surprise awaiting you. These days, all kinds of factors can make questions like this more complicated than ever. So please don't put off this important conversation. Bottom line: make sure you communicate with each other early and honestly what your expectations are about children. Then you won't get any curve balls thrown at you later. At least...not until you're playing ball with one of your kids!
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Brett & Kellie,
I just have to say, Great Picture!
I have seen this numerous times with my wonderful boy!- Craig
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